Sunday, May 9, 2010

Vaguebooking

If you visit the urban dictionary site you will see that they usually have a "word of the day." The last time I visited, not that I visit that website often, the word of the day was "vaguebooking". Basically, it's when people make their statuses on facebook so vague that it causes people to ask, pry, and wonder what's really going on with them.

It's so true. Facebook is the 21st century way of needing affirmation and encouragement. I took a facebook sabbatical a few months ago... and it was fabulous. I got back on after a few months, and decided to delete pretty much everyone unless it was family or a friend that I saw/talked to regularly. Which left me with around 60 people. Sorry if that offends anyone, but oh well. =)

It's amazing how facebook has changed our "world". People's status can make or break your day. They can cheer you up, make you laugh, tick you off, or cause you to cry. It's a good thing because we can stay connected and pretty much choose who we want to be connected with.

But... it can also be disheartening. I think people so often put on a front on Facebook. You can look at someone's page and see happy pictures, wonderful statuses, and hobbies galore. And so much of it is fake. It's a facade... it's a show... just because we know everyone is watching. Then you have some that are negative and gloomy all the time and it's not really fun to read about that either.

I think that's why I needed a break. You look at everyone's life and just think "mine is not that cool... I don't have kids... I don't have a woooonderful husband that cooks dinner for me... " and blah blah blah. Yes, you all have your right to post that kind of stuff but it started to creep into my brain in a bad way. Some people just use facebook to see who's married, who's divorced, who's gotten fat, who's too skinny, who gets to travel, who has money etc. etc. etc. It can be an excellent tool at times though-2 guys I somewhat dated actually put up some pictures on facebook that revealed a lot about them. =) Thus why those didn't last.

I'm glad I'm on facebook again because I do want to see pictures of my precious babies in the family (or friends who pretty much count as family) who live far away and who are genuinely apart of my life. But, I do not care to hear about everyone else's life of whom I talked to like 10 years ago in high school. And I don't really feel like showing all my pictures to those people either. So there. =) Continue vaguebooking if you choose... maybe it just makes you feel better...

5 comments:

Josh Lane said...

guess I didn't make the cut, lol ;-)...oh well, got nothing but love for ya abs. hopefully we'll all get to hang out together sometime now that we're back in the big city of cleveland.

rachel said...

Your blog was next to mine on the 'next blog' button - so here's my comment.

Abby, I like your facebook policy - I did much the same myself. Didn't actually go as far as 'unfriending' people but that's just laziness on my part.

Friends are friends, you don't need Facebook to confirm that. And people you knew at school years ago are... just that!

Has the word 'fakebook' made it to the Urban Dictionary yet, I wonder?

Sundy said...

I dont know you, i stumbled on your blog. But, I love this and totally agree!!!

N said...

Stumbled upon your blog. Love this post. Unbelievably true.

-Veronica said...

My friend Sundy sent me a link to your blog, and I LOVED it! I am about to do the same thing....and I LOATHE "vaguebooking". It drives me crazy. I purposely don't comment on people who do that. Much props to you!!